Free relationship quizzes
This is the central place to find every free relationship quiz on my website. Use it when you want a clear starting point - whether you need a fuller overview or a short specialist self-check quiz.
Each quiz is an educational self-check of relationship patterns, designed to give research-based clarity you can act upon.
They are for adults in romantic relationships who want honest language about issues within their relationship.
Free Relationship Health Check
The fuller clinical-style overview across more areas of relationship health. Best when you want the broader picture of strengths and friction, not only one theme. About 10-15 minutes.
Take the Free Relationship Health Check ❯❯Specialist quizzes
Short focused self-checks (about 3-5 minutes). Instant scores. No email required to see results.
How to choose which quiz
Best if: you want the fuller picture across more relationship areas.
What helps: take the Relationship Health Check first (about 10-15 minutes).
Best if: arguments feel stuck, escalate fast, or you keep hearing the same fight.
What helps: the Four Horsemen Relationship Quiz for criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.
Best if: you are wondering about harsh, controlling or neglecting red flags.
What helps: the Toxic Relationship Quiz for a fast snapshot - not a permanent label.
Best if: you keep asking "am I the problem?" and want a fair look at your own habits.
What helps: the Am I the Problem Quiz - constructive self-check, not a character verdict.
Best if: you specifically wonder whether you are too critical - global labels, sarcasm, scorekeeping, or harsh openers.
What helps: the Am I Too Critical Quiz - criticism specialist, not a broad four-domain self-check.
For more reading after a quiz, see Rhys's best relationship advice books reviews.
Not sure where to start?
Begin with the fuller Health Check for the broader picture, then use a specialist quiz if one theme stands out.
Take the Free Relationship Health Check ❯❯
Common questions about free relationship quizzes
What free relationship quizzes does The Relationship Clinic offer?
List: Relationship Health Check; Four Horsemen Relationship Quiz; Toxic Relationship Quiz; Am I the Problem Quiz; Am I Too Critical Quiz.
Meaning: one longer clinical-style overview, plus four short specialist self-checks. All designed by relationship counsellor Rhys Lewis MSc PgDip.
What is the Relationship Health Check quiz?
Meaning: the fuller clinical-style overview across more areas of relationship health than the short specialist quizzes.
Best if: you want a broader picture of strengths and friction, not just one theme.
Time: about 10-15 minutes. Take the Free Relationship Health Check.
When should I take the Health Check instead of a specialist quiz?
Specialist quiz: when you already know the question (conflict style, red flags, or your own patterns) and want a 3-5 minute snapshot.
Health Check: when you want the fuller overview across more relationship areas, or you are not sure which specialist angle fits yet.
Which quiz should I take if I think I might be the problem?
Best if: you keep asking whether your habits are adding fuel to conflict.
What helps: the Am I the Problem Quiz - criticism and scorekeeping, accountability and repair, space and control, withdrawal and honesty.
Important: it is a constructive self-check, not a verdict that you are broken, and not a reason to own a partner's abuse or coercion.
What is a Four Horsemen relationship quiz measuring?
Meaning: how often Gottman's four high-risk conflict patterns show up - criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.
Best if: arguments feel stuck or escalate fast and you want a clear research-based snapshot of communication habits.
Take the Four Horsemen quiz or read the sample results explained.
What is a toxic relationship quiz for?
Meaning: a short red-flags self-check - on this site: criticism and contempt, control and manipulation, hostility and deception, and emotional neglect.
Best if: you are wondering whether harsh, controlling or neglecting patterns are becoming the norm.
What it is not: a legal finding, clinical diagnosis or permanent character label. Take the Toxic Relationship Quiz.
Which quiz should I take if I am too critical of my partner?
Best if: you specifically wonder about global labels, sarcasm or eye-rolling, scorekeeping, or harsh openers.
What helps: the Am I Too Critical Quiz - criticism specialist depth (not the broader Am I the Problem four-domain check).
Are these quizzes a diagnosis?
No. These quizzes are educational self-checks of relationship patterns, not a clinical diagnosis, medical assessment or formal therapy evaluation.
What scores mean: a private snapshot of how you answer today - habits to notice, not a character verdict.
Safety: if you feel unsafe, treat safety first (in the UK call 999 in immediate danger, or a domestic abuse helpline).
About the quiz creator
Rhys Lewis MSc PgDip, is the founder of The Relationship Clinic Wales and a professionally qualified couples therapist.
He is the author of 300 Ways To Improve Your Relationship and Infidelity: A Survival Guide.
Rhys also reviews relationship advice books. You can find his list of best relationship advice books for 2026 here.
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